Gentleness is having the power but deliberately not using it. Gentleness is self-control - expressed in calm and a confidence in the presence of God. It is a trust that God is meaningful. Gentleness is a disposition in sync with the larger picture. Gentleness is a virtue backed up by what the Bible calls, I find, the power of the Holy Spirit. The activity, vitality, life-inducing, life-empowering action of Good. It is something that exists - not as dream, but as a reality. Anybody expressing gentleness has the power to refrain from retaliation and engages in peacebuilding. The prerogative of the Holy Spirit. "A gentle answer turns away wrath" says Proverbs 15:1.
Gentleness does not encourage others to do what they want. Gentleness means that the power is on the side of good. And that you know that. So whatever others choose to do - gentleness is what you choose to do. Because you can.
Who is writing?
In my work as Christian Science practitioner and writer I draw on listening to God and listening to people.